When Gifts Cause Problems, Part 2

Everyone remember the lady that was sending me random gifts by mail? If you need a refresher, here’s a link to the original post: When Gifts Cause Problems.

I had to tell her to stop bc it was getting to be too much… And then I stopped talking to her bc I didn’t want to encourage her to send more…

Well, I have an update…

… I just received a new gift from her in the mail today.

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Considering that I haven’t chatted with her since I told her to stop, this was really unexpected. And it’s much more uncomfortable to me.

Another thing that’s bothering me about these gifts is that my husband even thinks it’s incredibly weird and he’s questioning who’s sending me all these gifts that are signed with hearts all over. I keep telling him it’s a lady I met on the internet but the more gifts that arrive, the less he believes me. I really don’t need this stress in my life.

And I don’t know how to make her stop. I’ve very clearly told her to stop. And I’ve even stopped chatting with her, bc I feel like engaging with her will only encourage her to keep sending. She doesn’t put a return address on her mail, so how can I block her mail from me without a return address? I can’t even return-to-sender so she knows I’m not accepting it.

Ugh, what would you do if you were me?

12 Replies to “When Gifts Cause Problems, Part 2”

  1. Do you have the address from the original package that you sent her? Maybe you could box up all the randoom stuff that she has sent and send it back to her with a note encouraging her to save her money. She can donate the things to a womenโ€™s shelter if she wants. This time of year, many help with the kids, but small gifts for mom are forgotten. Hopefully this woman seeks couseling so she can make meaningful relationships with people in person, and stop latching on to anyone who shows her kindness.

    1. I totally agree with you about her needing counseling. It’s quite telling that she doesn’t have any successful personal relationships. I might have her address still in my text messages from several months ago. But I don’t really have any of her stuff anymore. I’ve given most away to friends or to my daughter bc I didn’t have a reason, or the desire, to keep for myself. ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ

  2. From reading this, I do think the person has to accept that you told her to stop, and her sending gifts is not helping anyone! I hope she gets counselling and the support she needs! Thanks for sharing!

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  3. This does sounds stressful. I’ve ever had to deal with this kind of thing. Maybe check with you local post office whether there is a service to automatically decline and return these to the sender. Or try to talk to your mail deliverer and tell them that you do not accept any of these packages moving forward and to please send them to the sender. The only other thing I can think of would to file for a restraining order. Hope that this situation resolves itself one way or another.

    1. Oh I wish it would resolve itself as well. But I was thinking, it probably won’t stop for me until she finds someone else to do this to instead. So I kinda feel bad for the next person… ๐Ÿ™

  4. Woof, what a strange situation! I got a medical alert system sent to me randomly (a surprisingly good one, too; https://www.alert-1.com/products/medical-alert-bracelets/2794), but after posting all over Facebook, I discovered it was a gift from my daughter!! It sounds like you know who this person is, though, so Iโ€™m not sure thatโ€™s much of a help. Iโ€™m sorry this keeps happening, and Iโ€™ll be keeping you in my thoughts.

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