Introducing my Online Alias

Pepper Valentine.

Lol, so I played that alias-creation game “What’s Your P*rn Star Name?” where you combine the name of your first pet + first street you ever lived on, and voila! Pepper Valentine.

What’s your name when you play that game?

Anyhow, this is a repost of my story as to why I decided to create an alias. It’s a frequent question I get so it’s a good revisit for any newcomers visiting here.

I have the alias because I wanted to create a Facebook account for my blog, but I didn’t want anyone from my real life to find it or to know it was actually me. I do vent about them online occasionally, as you know.

I can’t use my real Facebook account bc I plan on blogging about my real life and work stuff, etc. And if people in my real life were aware of that, I’d probably censor myself for their benefit. So to feel like I have freedom here, I’d prefer for folks in my real life to not know. I hope that makes sense and doesn’t make me seem like a weirdo.

So I tried my alias and surprisingly Facebook accepted it as a real name! Lol, I didn’t expect that since they seem really strict about using real names. So now I’m Pepper Valentine online. Nice meeting you all. 🙂

If you are a Facebook fan, definitely feel free to add me. I’m Pepper Valentine, and my link is www.facebook.com/peppvalentine.

I also created a Facebook page for this blog, it’s at www.facebook.com/peppervalentine77. I’ve never managed a FB page before, so this will be a learning experience for me. I hope it turns out to be cool.

See you all over there!

Why Facebook Isn’t Fun Anymore

Because all my “friends” on it have ruined it for me.

Lol, hopefully you all know what I mean and don’t think I’m being rude.

I have a personal Facebook account where my family, friends, acquaintances, and co-workers have been gathered. I actually enjoy how easy it is for me to keep up with what THEY are all doing. That part is convenient for me and is why I’ll never rid myself of this account.

However, it’s very rare for me to post anything about myself there. If I do post anything, it’s usually a non-offensive meme or a video of Family Feud goofs. But you’ll never discover anything personal of me on that account anymore.

Part of the reason for that is because I have people on this account that have stalker-ish behavior that makes me uncomfortable. For example, I’ve visited somewhere before and made the mistake of posting about it and next thing I know I’m “running into” them. And I know it wasn’t a coincidence. I don’t like that.

It also feeds alot of gossip. Especially among my coworkers. Holy smokes! They are so incredibly vicious and judgmental over what I’m doing. And everything I post gets circulated amongst the rest of my coworkers, even the ones I’m not FB friends with. I couldn’t post those Dreamliner pics from my previous post to my personal Facebook due to the gossip consequences I would face from my coworkers. That was a work trip, by the way, so they would’ve been extra judgy over it.

Other things my coworkers have done to me, was that when I would post pics of a meal I had at a restaurant while I was on a work trip, they would LOOK UP the menu online and calculate how much that meal cost and then circulate around the company how much I was spending. Frankly, as long as I was following the expense rules (and I always did), then it shouldn’t have been anyone’s business how much it was. It was so invasive.

And I have to censor myself so much it’s exhausting!

For example, I went to a little event last night, but I knew not everyone was invited, so I couldn’t post about it because I didn’t want to “out” the hostess for not inviting everyone. Because that would cause issues for her.

Another example, my daughter didn’t go to an out-of-town soccer tournament over Halloween weekend because she had inflamed growth plates in both her ankles (diagnosed by a doctor) that was causing her pain when she ran hard. BUT she really wanted to go trick-or-treating and she was able to manage that pain by not running. So I couldn’t post any of her trick-or-treating or costume pics to my FB because I KNEW that it would cause the other parents on her soccer team to raise their suspicions and question her injury. And I didn’t want to deal with that.

So those are just two examples from the last couple of weeks. Imagine how often this happens over the coarse of the several YEARS I’ve been on Facebook. It is exhausting. And I feel like I don’t have the freedom to post what I want on that account bc of the people in my real life that are on it, who will judge me and question me and stalk me and gossip about me, etc.

When I launched this blog, I decided to be anonymous so I wouldn’t have those same issues here. I want the freedom to be myself and post what I want. I don’t want to manage other people’s feelings. I don’t want to feel like I have to censor myself. I hope this can be my safe space.

I did start an alias and an anonymous FB to support this blog and interact with other bloggers I enjoy. Nobody I know from my real life is allowed. You’re all welcome to follow me there if you’d like. I’m at www.facebook.com/sassysassyandcultjam