Getting to Know My Readers Better

Hi everyone! I know that I blab about myself an awful lot here, but [plot twist] I also want to get to know YOU all better!

So I have some starter questions here that’ll help us get to know each other better. I hope you participate. It’ll be interesting to see what the overall turnout is like.

I made them poll questions too, in case you’re looking for quick and easy input. But you’re also welcome to freestyle your answers in the comments too. Definitely whatever your preference is, is fine. It’s another characteristic of you!

And I don’t believe the poll works if you’re here via WordPress Reader, my apologies for that. I think the only way to see the poll questions would be via my actual site… so sad. 🙁

Where Are You Located?

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What Social Media Are You Active On?

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My Site Went Down!

Holy smokes everyone! I was minding my own business. I went to bed Monday night and everything was ok and I hadn’t touched anything. So imagine my surprise when I woke up Tuesday morning and I had alerts everywhere that my site was down!

So of course I immediately checked my site and it WAS freakin’ down!

I was so upset. Worst surprise ever!

So I spent most of my day putting out this fire.

It wasn’t easy. I did alot of Googling, I reached out to Siteground Support, and I asked a bunch of questions from my Facebook blog support groups.

Siteground was able to help me temporarily bandaid the situation and get my site back up within a few minutes BUT they didn’t help me actually fix the problem so I was in perpetual jeopardy of my site dropping again!

The folks in my Facebook blog support groups were the MOST helpful of all. They gave me a bunch of things to try and I tried them all! I was WAY out of my league with all this but I learned ALOT about troubleshooting blog problems… he good news is that this morning I FINALLY got my blog permanently fixed!!! (Well, for now.)

And I did it all by myself! Well, I did get a TON of advice from a ton of people smarter than me. But ultimately, I pieced it all together myself and actually pulled it off! Yay me! I kinda feel really proud of myself.

Whew. I’m gonna go rest now. I’m wiped out!

P.S. Just in case you’re curious… The problem root cause was my site’s PHP auto-upgrading to 7.4 overnight. I don’t really understand it and it still sounds like jibberish to me; all I know is that it was incredibly weird and annoying. I hope that never happens to me again. 🙁

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Blogger Meetup Inspiration

Hi everyone!

I’m in a MUCH better mood today than compared to my mood on Wednesday when I was pouting and lamenting my lack of a social life and lack of satisfaction at work…

I kinda have something to work towards now which has greatly helped improve my attitude. I think I want to start coordinating live and in-person meetups between bloggers!

Before you think I’m crazy, check this out… prior to covid, something that I really enjoyed about my work was that they sent me travelling to different places to meet and network with clients as well as competitors. This included many conferences and tradeshows. And if I could bring this back into my life somehow, I would be much happier for sure. I’m also hearing from others that they’ve been lacking a social outlet as well, so this could bring a solution for all of them too.

Now, I have no experience with actually hosting a conference. BUT, I’ve attended a ton of them so I have very high expectations of what the attendee experience should be. And let me tell you, it will be top-notch and bougie. (I’ve secretly been DYING to use “bougie” in an actual sentence so I’m thrilled to finally do it).

AND, since covid is still a thing… I have alot of time to slowly ramp this up into larger events. But in the meantime, I can start with super-small meetups like at a local coffee-shop or bistro, while gathering a larger audience for the bigger events.

So I know this sounds really crazy and out-there, but it’s giving me some life right now so I’ll roll with it for awhile and see what happens.

What do you all think? If there’s a local meetup in your area, would you be interested? I’ll have a ton of criteria for attendees so not just anyone can attend. There will be a vetting system of some sort so there can be trust that the bloggers are legitimate. Let me know your thoughts…

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11 Fun Halloween Costume Ideas for Girls

Halloween is definitely one of my favorite holidays, and this post will be full of Halloween costume ideas for girls. This post was fun for me to put together because it features all the costumes my own daughter has dressed-up in over the past years…

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1. Masquerade Ball Costume

Masquerade Ball Costume

Costume Ideas for Girls: Masquerade Ball / Image Source: Pepper V.
Costume Ideas for Girls : Masquerade Ball / Image Source: Pepper V.

2. Mal from Disney’s “The Descendants”

Here’s my daughter as the Mal character from “The Descendants” movie on the Disney Channel. For the eye-shadow, I actually used lipstick instead to ensure it was bright enough. Because sometimes it’s difficult for eye-shadow to show up so vibrantly. My cheat is to use lipstick instead.

Costume Ideas for Girls: Mal from “The Descendants” / Image Source: Pepper V.

Some links that might help you put together this Descendants Mal costume are below:

3. Britney Spears

Here’s my daughter as 3 different versions of Britney Spears… I actually have a separate post detailing these specific 3 costumes better here if you were curious.

Costume Ideas for Girls: Britney Spears “Hit Me Baby One More Time” / Image Source: Pepper V.
Costume Ideas for Girls: Britney Spears “I’m a Slave 4U” / Image Source: Pepper V.
Costume Ideas for Girls: Britney Spears “Toxic” / Image Source: Pepper V.

Some online links that might help you piece together these Britney Spears kids costumes for yourself are below:

4. Ariana Grande

Here’s my daughter as Ariana Grande…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Ariana Grande / Image Source: Pepper V.

My daughter was a size 3 in youth shoes at the time, and I had no luck finding any kids boots that looked like this they would fit her exactly. So the best I could do was find these women boots from Amazon as a size 6. They were a bit big for her but it worked for the costume and should last a couple more years if needed for other costumers. The boots in this image (as well as various colors and sizes) can be bought here if interested:

And we also got the hair extensions for the ponytail from Amazon. My daughter has very thick hair, so we actually used TWO of these hair extension packages to be able to cover her natural hair sufficiently. We got the longest length of 30in. The ponytail extensions we used can be bought here:

5. Jem and the Holograms, or a Pop-Star / Rock-Star

Here’s my daughter as Jem from “Jem and the Holograms”. Lol, or if you’re like 99% of the world and not familiar with that specific character, it can also be a generic pop-star or rock-star look…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Jem and the Holograms / Image Source: Pepper V.

6. Anna from “Frozen”

Here is my daughter as Anna from “Frozen”…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Anna from Frozen / Image Source: Pepper V.

7. Ariel from “The Little Mermaid”

Here is my daughter as Ariel from “The Little Mermaid”

Costume Ideas for Girls: Ariel “The Little Mermaid” / Image Source: Pepper V.

8. Genie

Here is my daughter as a genie…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Genie / Image Source: Pepper V.

9. Police Officer

Here is my daughter as a police officer…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Police Officer / Image Source: Pepper V.

10. Wonder Woman

Here is my daughter as Wonder Woman

Costume Ideas for Girls: Wonder Woman / Image Source: Pepper V.

11. Maleficent

My daughter as Maleficent…

Costume Ideas for Girls: Maleficent / Image Source: Pepper V.

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I hope you all enjoyed my collection of Halloween costume ideas for girls, as well as all the photos of my daughter!

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8 Reasons to Avoid Facebook

Reasons to Avoid Facebook

I do have a personal Facebook account where I’ve gathered my family, friends, and co-workers. I’ve also gathered several reasons to avoid Facebook.

I actually enjoy how easy it is for me to keep up with what everyone else is doing on Facebook. That part is convenient for me and is why I’ll never completely rid myself of this account. Because there’s a part of me that’s very nosy and enjoys being in other people’s business.

However, it’s also very rare for me to post anything about myself there. If I do post anything, it’s usually a non-offensive meme or a video of Family Feud goofs. But you’ll never discover anything personal of me on that account anymore. I’ve learned my lesson the hard way. I even posted about some of my preventative measures in a previous post: Alarming Ways an Online Stalker Can Find You.

A few reasons to avoid Facebook are listed here:

1. Safety. You probably have at least one Facebook “friend” who has stalker/invasive tendencies that FB encourages by displaying to them personal parts of your life. And the difficulty with this is that sometimes you don’t even realize a person has these concerning characteristics until they’ve already crossed the line, revealing themselves. By that point, it’s too late to take preventative action. For example, I’ve visited somewhere before and made the mistake of posting about it when I arrived or when I was on my way there and the next thing I know I’m “running into” them. And I know it wasn’t a coincidence.

2. Drama and Gossip. Especially among my coworkers. Holy smokes! They are so incredibly vicious and judgmental over what I’m doing. And everything I post gets circulated amongst the rest of my coworkers, even the ones I’m not FB friends with. There was always so much office gossip (and most of it was overwhelmingly negative) over where I was, what I was doing, who I was with, etc…

Other things my coworkers have done to me, was that when I would post pics of a meal I had at a restaurant while I was on a work trip, they would LOOK UP the menu online and calculate how much that meal cost and then circulate around the company how much I was spending. Frankly, as long as I was following the expense rules (and I always did), then it shouldn’t have been anyone’s business how much it was. It was so invasive.

3. Censorship. I’m not specifically talking about any “Fact-Checker” censorship that occurs on FB when people post some political/health-related content, which is certainly one of several reasons to avoid Facebook. But what I’m referring to here, is the censorship we impose upon ourselves in order to avoid hurting others’ feelings or hiding info that we don’t want specific persons to know.

Basically, I feel like I don’t have the freedom to post what I want on my FB bc of the people in my real life that are on it, who will judge me and question me and stalk me and gossip about me, etc.

For example, I went to a little event last weekend, but I knew not everyone in our friend group was invited, so I couldn’t post about it because I didn’t want to “out” the hostess for not inviting everyone. Because that could possibly cause issues for her. So I’m always thinking ahead for potential problems and avoiding posting anything to cause them. It’s exhausting, quite frankly.

4. Procrastination. Facebook is definitely a mindless rabbit-hole that can consume your time and attention that could’ve been spent on other things. It is a convenient tool to escape chores, work, real-life relationships, etc if you let it. So definitely make sure to stay mindful of the time spent on FB – as well as all social media – in order to validate that it’s not preventing you from being present in other areas of your life instead.

5. Discouragement. There will always be nay-sayers in the world, who are always quick to criticize and point-out all the negatives in any situation. But when you actually know them in real-life, like your friends and even family that you’ve added to your Facebook, then any such negativity just hurts a heckuva lot more. It’s definitely a deterrent to posting anything you can be excited over on FB, when you have some so-called “friends” that always want to make an inappropriate joke over it or inform you on how they would’ve done it better. It can ruin the moment.

6. Mental Health. We all need to take social-media breaks from time-to-time, and the reason for this is because it’s necessary for our mental health. There’s a stress associated with the bombardment of information that our brains are exposed to when scrolling social media. And Facebook has the additional stress that we actually know these people so any issues with them are greatly magnified because of the potential impacts to our real lives.

Any drama, conflicts, differences of opinions, or comparison to others facilitated by FB will have potentially greater consequences because you cannot block these people from your real-lives. You can hit that “unfriend” button on FB all day and they’ll still be at your daughter’s next soccer game. Sitting right next to you.

7. Divisive. There’s no other way to see it whenever you see those FB posts “If you believe x, then unfriend me now”. No matter what x is, I don’t appreciate ultimatums. Everybody is different with their own history, culture, backgrounds, and chemistry which makes them believe what they believe. And people who don’t care to understand any of that underlying context, I don’t want to be friends with anyway. And no, I won’t make it easy for them by unfriending them myself (they can use their own manpower to do that), but I do “hide” all their posts from ever seeing the light of day on my feed again.

8. Facebook is listening to you. C’mon, we all know that this definitely happens even though FB denies it. They definitely even use your phone microphone to uncover what you are speaking about, because that is the only way they are able to send you targeted advertising for things you’ve never typed into your computer or phone.

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So that’s it for my list of reasons to avoid Facebook. What do you all think? Did I miss anything?

When I launched this blog, I decided to be anonymous so I wouldn’t have those same issues here. I want the freedom to be myself and post what I want. I don’t want to manage other people’s feelings. I don’t want to feel like I have to censor myself. I hope this can be my safe space.

I did create my Pepper Valentine alias and an anonymous FB to support this blog and interact with other bloggers I enjoy. Nobody I know from my real life is allowed. You’re all welcome to follow me there if you’d like. I’m at www.facebook.com/peppervalentine77.

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Different Moving Styles and Moving Solutions

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I last moved homes about 9 years ago, and I am naturally stressed-out by events like this.  I’m definitely the type to overthink and freak out about all the decisions that need to be made when making such a big move.

See, I definitely use moving as an opportunity to rid myself of all the things I no longer need.  Because I realize that if I take the time and effort to pack it, then I also have to take the time and effort to UN-pack it too. I feel that it would be completely wasteful to move items that won’t fit or even be used in the new home.  So this is a big deal to me. 

But it’s also very difficult to mentally determine the usefulness and placement of every single item in a household.  One of the easiest way to determine this however, is if you had to dig it out of some hiding hole and wipe all the dust off of it. When you find items in that condition, it’s a pretty safe bet that you won’t be needing it again any time soon.  Same scenario when you find any broken items or expired items, as well as items you’ve completely forgotten about and never even missed.  Leave those behind!

Unfortunately, my husband is the complete opposite however (of course he is, if you’ve been following my blog). He doesn’t stress out too much about moving because he is the type to pack everything in sight, and then figure it all out later. Luckily for him, the person who actually has to “figure it all out later” is me.  He’s actually very comfortable living among boxes and packed items forever, until I can’t stand it anymore and actually start putting everything away.

What an easy gig for him. 😉

So my preference is actually to pack only the items that are needed or useful, and then purge everything else via garage-sales, moving-sales, donations to charities, or trash if that’s where they belong. That’s definitely how I’d prefer to handle any move and I can guarantee that AT LEAST 50% of our belongings would be gone if it were all up to me.

Too bad I get veto’d by my husband and we do things his way. So we moved EVERYTHING.

When we last moved 9 years ago, I had an infant too. So the main reason we moved was to gain an extra bedroom/bath as well as to secure a home in safer location with a good school system.  With the infant, I couldn’t help very much with the packing and organizing because… well, you know… infant.

Image Source: Pepper V.

So we really needed a moving service that could pack all our items for us too. The good news is that there are quality moving companies out there that can do this, which was the biggest help of all during this time! Because if left to my own devices, this would literally take me weeks to do on my own.

And Moving Solutions is one such company that offers this. And when you hire people to handle your personal furniture and belongings, you’ll want to ensure they have the proper experience, certifications, and a positive reputation so it’s very reassuring to see their reviews and testimonials on their website before you book.

This particular company also offers a variety of services including long-distance moving in Nashville, commercial, and even just labor only! They can help you move to and from anywhere in the United States. You’ll feel extremely comfortable with this group of professionals.

Image Source: Moving Solutions

Another thing I like about their website, is all their moving tips on their blog! Because we all love blogs anyway, right? So whether or not you actually hire them to move you, they have amazing tips and insights into some best practices when it comes to moving: such as packing tips, how to make moving easier, how to pick a professional moving service, and my personal issue I already mentioned above – how to get rid of unwanted items during a move.

Some other services they offer which could come in handy even if you are not making a big move to another home, is their internal furniture moving, furniture assembly, climate-controlled storage, vehicle-shipping, home staging, and their delivery services. 

For final tidbits about Moving Solutions, they are located in Nashville TN and they offer long-distance moving service all over the United States.  They also donate 10% of every move to businesses affected by Covid-19. They also offer discounts to the military, police, first responders, nurses, teachers, and seniors.  I appreciate what they are doing for their community.

So definitely check them out when you are in need of their moving or other services, and also check out their blog for all their moving tips and advice too…

Image Source: Moving Solutions

Online Predators are the Worst

Online Predators

Hi everyone, happy hump day! The holiday weekend will be here soon enough!

I’ve been watching Dr Phil alot lately, and the most recent episodes I’ve zoned-in to were regarding catfishes and online scams, where these lonely elderly ladies believed they were in love with a man they met online and they sent them all their retirement money and now they were homeless and broke! It’s so terrible and I felt so badly for them.

And then I became so angry thinking about the people behind the screen actually doing this to them! You have to be evil to take away someone’s retirement they’ve worked for their whole life.

But this happens all the time doesn’t it? Online scams, right? I know my spam folder catches at least a dozen of them EVERY DAY. Good grief.

So now I’m obsessed with all the ways that a predator can hurt innocent people online. Some ideas I’ve come up with are… online scams, catfishing, cyber stalking, cyber harrassment, and even stealing others’ blog content! All so terrible.

I’ve written before here about some of my issues with an online stalker and some ways I’ve found to protect against him.

But what do we do about all those other online transgressions? Have any of you fallen prey to these predators? How did you discover it, and what do you differently now to prevent it?

I think I’d like to do a round-up post regarding this topic, so if you’d like to contribute your story, please let me know because I’d love to include you and give your blog/social media credit for it… If you want to send me your message privately, you can email me at peppervalentine7@gmail.com.

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