I Miss Having a Best Friend

Now that I’m thinking about it, I’ve been without a best friend ever since covid happened. That’s a long time to be without one. And I do believe that the absence of this person in my life is one of the biggest contributors to my negative mindset lately.

The reason why covid interrupted our friendship, is that work was the major facilitator of our friendship. We met for lunch at least twice a week (sometimes more) and then we met for happy hours after work at least once a week (also, sometimes more).

We used to work in close proximity to each other so this arrangement was incredibly convenient. We do not live in close proximity so we’ve only seen each other twice within the past year and it was an effort to coordinate.

But we used to talk about everything during these times! Every miniscule detail of our lives, we shared with each other. We laughed together, got angry and sad together, and gave each other support and advice. I never realized how significant this friendship was to me until it was gone.

And it’s gone now bc we both have to work from home, where there is no longer any privacy for us to chat with each other like we used to. For example, I can no longer confide in her any difficulties with my family and have her support me through it, when my family is literally at home in the same space with me all the time. And vice-versa.

So I do have that void in my life now. And it’s sad and lonely here.

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11 Replies to “I Miss Having a Best Friend”

  1. I understand how you feel. Moving from New York to the midwest, I left behind all my friends. Due to COVID and all pf its variants, I have not been able to sse my family or friends. Not having someone to vent to forces you to bottle up those emotions. Not heading out to meet up with friends takes away from your time to relax.

    Sounds like you would benefit from a regular spa day, even if you need to do it in your own home. Treat yourself like you deserve to be treated.

    1. You are definitely right about all these emotions being bottled up now that I haven’t a friend to share it all with. That’s a huge move you went through! I hope you’re able to see your family and friends again soon!

  2. Same here! I miss having those silly, fun, and even serious conversations with work friends. Trying to meet up in person can be so difficult if not impossible. Hopefully one day you can have your best friend back in person at work 😀

  3. I’ve never really had a friend like that. I mean, before covid, I would do a lot of long marathon training runs where we talked about life, but it wasn’t every detail. Partially because it was a group of us, and partially because it always changed.

    I really need to find a friend who I can chat with once a month…

  4. I think it’s so important to have someone to share with and who understands and supports you. I have noticed friendships changing since covid began. Some are drifting and some are strengthening. It’s not easy for any of us. But you have a friend in me.

  5. I haven’t had a best friend in years and I am OK with that. I am a decent friend but the last couple of years I have been more introverted and depressed. (Sorry to be a Debbie Downer).

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