6 Reasons Online Friends are Better than Real Life Friends

Online Friends are Better than Real Life Friends

Sometimes, not all the time, there are situations and instances where online friends are better than real life friends. This isn’t a true statement ALL the time, but there are many times where it can be true when you need it to be.

I do often get sad and lament how my real-life friends have let me down. But what I’ve noticed instead, is that in those moments, my online friends are the ones to come to the rescue. I am so appreciative when that happens, bc it makes me feel like I am no longer alone and that there are actually tons people in the world that I can turn to.

Now, I do love my real-life friends. I’m not trying to disrespect that at all. Just I realize, that real-life gets in the way of friendships sometimes. I posted previously about how covid messed-up my relationship with my best friend here, if you wanted a refresher. So if there’s an alternate way to achieve friendships where real-life can’t interfere, then I’d like to promote the benefits of that too.

So I wanted to create a list detailing the reasons why online friends are better than real life friends. Here’s my list I’ve come up with:

1. Physical appearance doesn’t matter. You can interact with online friends in your jammies, in your comfy tees with stains on them, or nekkid even. And any personal hygiene issues won’t even matter. Nobody online will know if you stink. 🤗

2. Confidentiality. If you pay attention to protecting your privacy online (as I do), then you can vent about your most private issues and still have trust that your secret won’t be shared. In real life, there are so many human interactions that are out of your control. For example, in real life if I vent about a coworker at work, even to someone I believe is my friend, the risk is still inherently high that my secret will get out. This risk still exists online so you have to be careful, but more of that risk is within your control if you protect your identity.

3. Just-in-Time Interactions. Sometimes you just need a friend. NOW. But your real-life friends have jobs and families and their own lives and you’ll have to fit into their schedule somehow and it probably won’t be NOW. Or anytime soon. Online friends also have their own priorities, but there’s a much better chance that when you cast your net online, at least one of them can be available for kind words or a listening ear. It might not be the same person each time, but odds are in your favor that someone will be available and will rise to the occasion and be your friend at the moment that you need.

4. No fake friendships. In real life, sometimes you just HAVE to maintain relationships with people you don’t even like, or people that stress you out and give you anxiety, etc. For example, if I don’t like some of the moms from my daughter’s soccer team bc they gossip quite cruelly about others, well… I’m kinda out of luck bc they’re going to be in my life for YEARS. And the easiest way to deal with that is to fake friendships with them to maintain the illusion that everything is good. With online friends however, there is always the option to block them if they start becoming toxic or they engage in activities that make you uncomfortable.

5. Diversity. With real-life friends, there are usually many commonalities which bring them together in the first place – either growing up in the same neighborhood, going to the same school, working at the same office, going to the same church, or kids playing on the same soccer team, etc. With online friends on the other hand, no such common origin story exists to bring them together and you’ll end up creating friendships with people from all over the world with a variety of different mindsets, cultures, and experiences. And interacting with these globally diverse people can help us to grow and see ourselves and our situations much more critically.

6. Exploration. There may be a better word for this one, as I’m trying to describe the opposite of #5 above. Sometimes, you just don’t get along with the people in your immediate circles. The first example I can think of… you grow up in a very conservative and religious small town, but you have vastly different interests which are more liberal. So it’s difficult to create and maintain friendships in that situation where you may feel that you don’t fit in anywhere. But online it is much easier to explore different mindsets, as well as seek-out and befriend like-minded individuals.

So that’s my first-pass at creating this list on reasons why online friends are better than real life friends. Definitely let me know your thoughts. Or if there’s anything I can add to improve it.

Love you all, my online friends. xoxo

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Stop Trying to ReSchedule Halloween

So someone in my neighborhood has started the annual push to reschedule Halloween! They are asking for everyone in the neighborhood to rally together and “do Halloween” and the children’s trick-or-treating on Saturday night, Oct 30th, instead.

People, quit doing this! Halloween is ONE day only. It is October 31st. I don’t care if it’s Sunday and the children have school the next day and you have to go to work. There’s a simple solution for that: start early and end early. That’s it!!! So simple. Quit pushing a more complicated solution that burdens everyone else for YOUR issue!

If you are personally unable to attend to Halloween activities on the actual October 31st, then there are HUNDREDS of alternate activities you can attend on different days: The zoo hosts their ZooBoo event, there are several Trunk-or-Treat events scheduled all over town starting this weekend. Just Google it. And then you have all your alternate Halloween events to choose from that are NOT on Oct 31st.

But frankly, rescheduling Halloween for everyone shouldn’t be an option if there is not a more universal issue that warrants it. For example, if there are forecasts for severe weather or if there’s a massive power outage so all the lights go out, then I can be agreeable to a re-schedule because the issue affects everyone anyway. I’m not unreasonable.

And I don’t mean to pick on Halloween specifically. I feel this way about ALL holidays. Especially the 4th of July. I’m the ornery neighbor that’s upset about all the fireworks going off for WEEKS around July 4th. It should be ONE night only. That’s it.

Whew. Ok, I really needed to get all that off my chest. I get so worked up by this request every year when it happens! What do you all think? Do I need to lighten-up?

Quick Weekend Catch-Up

Hi everyone, how was your weekend? I just wanted to check-in with you all while I had the chance.

My weekend was quite hectic and I haven’t had much time to myself. And the first part of my upcoming work week is looking to be quite busy as well so this might be my only chance to catch-up with everyone.

So let’s see, what’s going on with Pepper?

There were a TON of Southwest Airlines cancellations today (about 27%) of their schedule, so I’m kinda nervous about my TRIP in a couple weeks! I’ve booked my flights with Southwest Airlines so I’m watching this news story very closely in case I need an alternate solution. I suppose my back-up plan will be to make the 12-hour drive EACH WAY instead. But I’m not very happy about it. 🙁

And, nobody has guessed correctly yet where my trip will be! Maybe my clue above (a 12-hour drive for me) will lead to the correct guess? I live in Tennessee, United States.

In other news, I’m still obsessing about starting an in-person meetup for bloggers all over the world. This is totally my cup of tea and I would love to make this happen. I previously posted about it here if you wanted a refresher.

I’ve been trying to come-up with the perfect title for this, but all my faves are ALREADY TAKEN! It’s discouraging that all my best titles aren’t available for me (I’m looking at domain names), so I’m a bit stuck at the moment. I feel like I’m waiting for inspiration to hit me and it’s slowing down my momentum. So I’m kinda bummed. 🙁

Anyhow, that’s my scoop for this week. My apologies that this post is so short but I’m out of time and I’ve gotta run! Everyone have a lovely evening!

Reasons to Travel Alone

I do enjoy taking my daughter to new places and seeing her experience things for the first time, and seeing her enjoy herself and her life. I wouldn’t want to miss out on a single instance of that.

But there are also many times where I would prefer to travel alone. In the last several years, I’ve had to travel alone for work and while I didn’t expect to enjoy it at first, I ended up realizing that it suits me very well.

Some of the reasons why I prefer to travel alone…

  1. Saves money! This is definitely the case when you are part of a couple or a family (which is my scenario) and usually have to cover expenses for more than just yourself. The only exception to this is when you’re travelling with friends who will split costs with you – especially the lodging costs which are often very expensive.
  2. Maximize time! You don’t have to wait on anyone else. You don’t have to wait on others to get ready for the day or deal with their personal matters. If others are slower than you and pokey, it won’t affect you at all.
  3. Maximize activities! You don’t have to begrudgingly participate in activities you are not interested in because others want to. Your itinerary is 100% up to you and no compromises are necessary except for scheduling and timing.
  4. Make new friends! When you’re travelling with your own family or clique, it’s very easy to silo yourself within your current group. When travelling alone however, you’re more likely to strike up conversations with others that share your same interests, and meet new people who could possibly evolve into friendships!
  5. Great for self-confidence! You’re solving your own problems, planning your own schedule and activities, figuring out a new place all on your own, and you learn to LOVE your own company!
  6. Indulge in selfishness! Imagine doing what you want, when you want, EATING what you want, and being as lazy or as active as you’d like. This is the ultimate “Me Time”.

So that’s my current list of reasons to travel alone. Perhaps I’ll come up with more reasons to add later. But what do you all think about travelling alone? Have you tried it yet? Do you want to try it?

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Top 5 Things that Annoy Me

Lol, I’ve gotten alot more ornery as I’ve gotten older, and more things bother me now than they used to. Here’s a quick list of the top 5 things that annoy me today.

1. Casual cursing. Now, cursing in the heat of the moment doesn’t bug me. I actually catch myself doing that too. But it’s the cursing that’s part of a person’s normal everyday vernacular that REALLY irks me. Like, “Wanna go shopping or s***?” or “Your puppy is cute as f***!” etc. I just cringe at this and I’ve been seeing it ALOT on TikTok and that’s my biggest turn-off about that app. The cursing is out of control there.

2. Adding sugar to naturally sweet foods. My in-laws do this and it makes me crazy! I love fruit and their natural taste. Just love it. My kid does too. But my in-laws will never serve any fruit unless they dump a ton of extra sugar on top of it first. Kills me. Feels ruined!

3. Ambiguous invitations. I start sweating when I get that text “Hey what are you doing on Friday?” Because there’s always an implicit invitation coming next, depending on how you answer. Lol, but my answer DEPENDS on what your invitation turns out to be! For example, before I tell you if I’m busy or not, I kinda need to know FIRST if your question is going to be “Can you watch my 2 bratty kids so I can go out for hot wings?” vs “Wanna go out and eat hot wings with me?”

4. Not returning the shopping cart after you’re done unloading all your purchases to your trunk. Kills me! Especially when that abandoned shopping cart is taking up a perfectly good parking spot. This is just plain rude and inconsiderate.

5. And finally, the person that doesn’t know how to use the self-checkout. Especially when they are right in front of me. At this point, they really need to get in line for the checker instead. Because I’m usually in a hurry and this situation needs to NOT be holding me up.

And that’s my top 5 for today folks! What do you think? Do I need to lighten up? 🙂

Getting to Know My Readers Better

Hi everyone! I know that I blab about myself an awful lot here, but [plot twist] I also want to get to know YOU all better!

So I have some starter questions here that’ll help us get to know each other better. I hope you participate. It’ll be interesting to see what the overall turnout is like.

I made them poll questions too, in case you’re looking for quick and easy input. But you’re also welcome to freestyle your answers in the comments too. Definitely whatever your preference is, is fine. It’s another characteristic of you!

And I don’t believe the poll works if you’re here via WordPress Reader, my apologies for that. I think the only way to see the poll questions would be via my actual site… so sad. 🙁

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My Site Went Down!

Holy smokes everyone! I was minding my own business. I went to bed Monday night and everything was ok and I hadn’t touched anything. So imagine my surprise when I woke up Tuesday morning and I had alerts everywhere that my site was down!

So of course I immediately checked my site and it WAS freakin’ down!

I was so upset. Worst surprise ever!

So I spent most of my day putting out this fire.

It wasn’t easy. I did alot of Googling, I reached out to Siteground Support, and I asked a bunch of questions from my Facebook blog support groups.

Siteground was able to help me temporarily bandaid the situation and get my site back up within a few minutes BUT they didn’t help me actually fix the problem so I was in perpetual jeopardy of my site dropping again!

The folks in my Facebook blog support groups were the MOST helpful of all. They gave me a bunch of things to try and I tried them all! I was WAY out of my league with all this but I learned ALOT about troubleshooting blog problems… he good news is that this morning I FINALLY got my blog permanently fixed!!! (Well, for now.)

And I did it all by myself! Well, I did get a TON of advice from a ton of people smarter than me. But ultimately, I pieced it all together myself and actually pulled it off! Yay me! I kinda feel really proud of myself.

Whew. I’m gonna go rest now. I’m wiped out!

P.S. Just in case you’re curious… The problem root cause was my site’s PHP auto-upgrading to 7.4 overnight. I don’t really understand it and it still sounds like jibberish to me; all I know is that it was incredibly weird and annoying. I hope that never happens to me again. 🙁

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