Positive Affirmations

Do you receive enough positive affirmations in your life?

It really does make a difference in attitude. I will go several weeks at a time without anyone telling me anything positive about myself, and I do notice my mood sinking and my thoughts start turning dark. And when I suddenly receive a compliment or a positive comment, then it turns around so fast!

I wish my attitude wasn’t so dependent on other people. But to me, a positive compliment from another person = 20+ positive comments from myself. It just doesn’t pack the same punch when I’m trying to boost my own confidence.

So I’m trying to figure out how to surround myself with more positive people. That’s why blogging has been important to me, because of all the positivity and social support here. I’d like a similar circle of positivity in my real life, but why is it so difficult?

I think in real life, people are bogged-down with responsibilities and chores and to-do lists and everyday stresses, that to take 20 seconds to build up someone else is easily overlooked.

But when people make the time to go online (via blog or social media, etc), then some of those stresses and responsibilities can be set aside for awhile, allowing more positivity to come out.

I don’t know, what do you all think?

I just wish with all my heart, that someone I respected in my real life would tell me:

“All your hard work does not go unnoticed.”

What to do with Popular Blog Posts

Hi everyone!

So, I’ve noticed that I have 1 blog post (just one, don’t get too excited) that performs exceptionally well ever since I first posted it several years ago. And even without any purposeful effort on my part, it does appear at the tippy top of Google search results. I’ve applied this sort of effort on some of my other posts, but haven’t been able to repeat that success anywhere else.

In case you’re curious, the post is a travel post about a huge personal pool that can be rented for parties: Thornton’s Pool.

But my big question here is: what do I do with this popular post? I feel like I should be leveraging it somehow. I’ve added affiliate links there, and also links to other travel posts on my blogs. I’ve also added a form to subscribe to my email list.

However, all those links get 0 activity. None.

So I’m curious, what should I be doing on that post? Does anyone have any suggestions on what to try, or examples of what you’ve done in similar situations? Any ideas would be incredibly helpful as I am stumped!

I hope you all are having a great day!

Declutter Update

Declutter Challenge

Hello all!

Do you remember that infamous broken treadmill that I’ve been complaining about on my blog since 2022? To be fair, I’ve been upset about it probably since 2018, but I didn’t introduce it to you all on my blog until 2 years ago. If you’d like to remind yourselves, the previous posts about it are here: Declutter Challenge 2022 and Declutter Challenge 2023.

I was upset that it was broken and nobody was going to fix it and it was taking-up a ridiculous amount of space in my house. We were basically using it to stockpile other junk on top of. It made that room completely unusable. Here are a couple of photos to refresh your memory:

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Declutter Challenge
Declutter Challenge
Declutter Challenge

And do you remember when the treadmill had a new friend join it? Yes, a broken exercise bike was added to the family too. We didn’t have enough room for it so just left it in a doorway. Fun times! Pic below for a reminder:

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Declutter Challenge

Well… after 6 years of asking my husband to get rid of the treadmill… it finally happened! I still can’t really believe it! But perhaps 6 years is the magic number. Maybe I should simply stop stressing-out about my unheeded requests and just relax and wait 6 years. Sounds totally reasonable.

The good news is that both the treadmill and the exercise bike are successfully out of the house and I can start cleaning/organizing/decorating those rooms to my satisfaction. I’m really excited about this. Woot!

The bad news is that both the treadmill and the exercise bike are now waiting in my husband’s garage for me to call someone to come pick them up. We have a person in town that picks up broken equipment and either fixes them up himself or uses them for parts. We prefer this so we feel like we’re not being wasteful by throwing these things away, since someone has a good purpose for them.

But I think I’ll wait awhile to make that phone call. Perhaps 6 years…

Just Life Updates

I can’t believe how time has been passing by so quickly! And I’m wasting most of my time with work, unfortunately.

Work has gotten ridiculously hectic, with alot of travelling added to my schedule. My fear of flying seems to be getting worse, honestly. With each new flight, I get more scared – even if it’s relatively smooth and turbulence-free.

I think most people become more comfortable with flying, the more they do it. It’s like, exposure-therapy. But why am I the opposite?

It’s just weird. I hope it doesn’t get to the point where I won’t be able to fly anymore. I wonder if I’ll lose my job when that happens.

I used to excitedly dream about being able to leave my job, and find another job more satisfying to my soul – like genuinely helping people and animals in need. But I’ve given-up on that dream. Probably permanently.

I do need the income from the job I currently have. I don’t expect to be able to maintain that income doing something else. I also do need the health insurance from the job I currently have. It is undeniably very good health insurance that I doubt I could find as good anywhere else.

Even though I’m not happy nor fulfilled with my work at the moment, I really cannot turn my back on the financial stability it provides for me. So I’m trying to embrace this corporate life of mine now, and figure out how to change my mindset so that I’m not depressed about it everyday.

And instead of dreaming about escaping it, I need to start dreaming about transforming it.

Scam Issues Again!

Remember when I got scammed just a couple of months ago and I wrote all about it here?

Well, I’m still having issues!

So I did everything I was supposed to do. I contacted my bank and cancelled my card and they sent me a new card.

Then I had to update my new card everywhere, which was super-annoying! I had to go to all my frequent websites where I regularly make purchases or pay my bill and make all those changes online.

I did notice however, that there were a few online locations where my card was already updated before I got to it to do myself. I thought that was weird and researched how that happened.

Turns out that there is a “service” called VAU – Visa Account Updater – that automatically updates card account information whenever there is change with merchants who have saved the card information. And don’t think this doesn’t apply if you don’t use Visa – all the other cards do it too, but the acronym is different.

I still thought it was weird, but figured it would be ok since it was super-convenient at the time and I forgot all about it.

Until today when I found a charge that I did not make from Amazon!

I contacted Amazon to find out more information, and they looked into it and basically told me that there is another Amazon account using my card! Oh great, not again!

I asked them for information to help me identify who is operating this other account and they wouldn’t tell me. I asked them to shut-down that other account since this is obviously fraud behavior to use my card without my authorization, and they wouldn’t do that either.

Basically, my only option is to contact my bank, cancel my card, and get another card. I just did all this a couple months ago so the annoyance of it all is still fresh on my mind.

But get this! Amazon was one of those online locations where I did NOT have to update my card information myself because it happened automatically without me.

So…. if I contact my bank, cancel my card, and get another card…. then my legit Amazon account will automatically update with the new card info (because that’s exactly what happened last time)… AND THEN the fraudulent Amazon account will ALSO automatically update with the new card info too! Right?!

This is not a good “service” at all! Especially if people are already compromised by fraud activity! I feel like people should be able to opt-in and opt-out of this, with full awareness of what the impact would be.

I’m so irritated. So I don’t think cancelling my card and getting a new card will help me prevent this fraud account continue using my card with Amazon, because of this automatic update that I don’t want to participate in. What I need is to turn OFF this automatic update, but how? I’m at a loss.

What would you all do in this scenario?

I’m Freaking Myself Out

So I have sleep issues occasionally – where I have difficulty falling asleep, or where I see things in the dark when I’m trying to sleep, or sleep paralysis sometimes too. It’s very weird and terrifies me when it happens. But, that hadn’t happened to me in several months so it hasn’t been a recent worry of mine.

Anyhow, I slept fine last night. I didn’t notice anything weird or strange except I did wake up lightly a couple of times and noticed that my cat wasn’t sleeping against me like he usually does. He’s definitely a creature of habit so it piqued my concern that he wasn’t there.

When I woke up to use the restroom around 6am (close to my normal wake-up time so that wasn’t odd), I did find my cat sitting up by himself in the dark hallway. THAT was odd. When he sits up by himself, he’s usually at a window or watching something going on like me cooking or cleaning or something. I made a mental note to pay attention to him all day to see if he was feeling ok.

And then I went about my morning without worrying about it.

Until my daughter told me during lunch that she saw a dark figure coming out of my closet last night. Oh geez.

She slept with me last night. She told me she woke up in the middle of the night to pick up her pillow that fell off the bed. When she turned over to face the hallway and my closet, she said she saw a dark figure half-in/half-out of my closet. She said that she turned away and went back to sleep. I asked her if she saw our cat while she was awake then, and she said our cat was there, just sitting up and quietly watching everything.

I’ve been freaked out ever since.

This is what that hallway and closet looks like from the bed we sleep in. I turned-on the light in the closet so you all could see where it is.

And now I’m very worried about going to bed tonight. Because I’m freaking myself out about it, and I’m scared that I’ll see something tonight.

So what do you all think? Have you experienced something like this before? How do you turn-off your head so you aren’t so scared about it? 🙁

Holiday Aftermath

Did everyone survive Christmas ok? I hope it was all enjoyable!

Mine was ok. The husband was sick with some sort of respiratory illness (cough, fever, sneezing, etc) and he refused to go to the doctor so it’s unknown what it was exactly. Probably the flu as that’s been popular around our local area recently.

So we cancelled all our guests coming over since he was likely contagious and I got a break from hosting this year. No in-laws! I was actually quite happy about that more than anything else! Is that mean of me?!

And gifts worked out well this year too. My daughter is 12 and it was so easy to please her! Basically, all she wanted was clothes, makeup, skincare, fragrances, and gift cards. I was very worried about picking-out clothes/makeup that she didn’t want or like, so we went shopping ahead-of-time and I had her pick-out specifically what she wanted so I wouldn’t make any mistakes. It worked out I think.

But is that weird though? To know exactly what you’re getting at Christmas, and not have any surprises? She seemed good with it, and she seemed to prefer getting stuff she REALLY wanted vs stuff she only somewhat wanted because I can’t read her mind. What do you all think? Are we being anti-climatic by removing all the mystery and suspense of the holiday?

I ended-up picking out my own gift too, and was very grateful about it. I’m perfectly happy with no surprises at Christmas. I simply wanted to get my cat’s litter box out of the closet because I was annoyed about not getting to use the closet as an actual closet and keep the door shut. So I picked-out a litter box enclosure that I should be able to leave out inconspicuously in a normal room. If this works out, then I get a whole closet to myself as a result! Let’s hope!

So overall, I had a peaceful and relaxing Christmas holiday with immediate family only.

How about you all? Did you have a good Christmas as well?