You Don’t Have to Be Pretty Like Her

You Don't Have to be Pretty Like Her

“You Don’t Have to be Pretty Like Her / Be Pretty Like You” is my new favorite quote.

I found this quote because I was feeling bad about myself and I wanted to find something to inspire me otherwise. I tried to find the original author so I could properly quote them. Most search results said the author was Anonymous, but I did find one result that said the original author was a YouTube/Instagram influencer named Desi Perkins. Just in case that’s true, I want to give her credit for it.

See, I had wanted to post a cute photo of myself to Instagram and I just couldn’t bring myself to do it because I lacked the confidence in how I look. I had a goal this year too, of trying to improve my confidence in my appearance because I already knew it was in a slump due to all my lifestyle changes during lockdown, and I posted about it here. I’m at 0% with making any progress on this goal.

So before all our snow melted today, I dressed-up a little bit and tried to take some cute pics in the snow. I seriously took HUNDREDS of pics. And when I reviewed them afterwards, I hated every single one of them. I kept finding imperfections with myself like:

  • I have a double-chin
  • There’s a shadow over my face
  • My smile is creepy
  • My braid isn’t over my shoulder like it’s supposed to be
  • I have closed fists
  • That spot of sunlight on my face looks like a huge cystic zit
  • I am grimacing
  • My pose is awkward
  • I look too short
  • etc, etc, etc

This literally happened with every.single.pic I took.

And my confidence truly took a beating from it.

Below is a glimpse into what my camera roll looked like. And I was unsatisfied with each one, for a million different reasons.

You Don’t Have to be Pretty Like Her / Image Source: Pepper V.

I know exactly why I do it too. Because I’m on Instagram alot and I see amazingly gorgeous pics of other women all day long. And instead of telling myself that “you don’t have to be pretty like her”, I compare myself to them and I start telling myself that I can’t compete. There’s no possible way.

But why is it a competition to me? Just because other women are beautiful, doesn’t mean I can’t be beautiful too. We are all unique in a variety of ways, and striving to look exactly like everyone else doesn’t highlight our uniqueness at all. And maybe it’s our uniqueness that is beautiful.

How do I stop comparing myself to them then? I don’t know how to stop unfortunately, so I don’t have any words of wisdom to share with you. But at least I know that’s my root cause. Do any of you have this issue too? How do you deal with it?

And that’s when I started searching for some inspiration otherwise to help get me out of my funk, and I found the quote: “You don’t have to be pretty like her. Be pretty like you.”

Maybe if I keep saying enough times, I’ll start to believe it. 🙁

Truly Outrageous Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party

Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party

Just sharing a few pics of the Jem and the Holograms birthday party I threw for my daughter a few years ago. It was themed for “Jem and the Holograms” bc my daughter and I went through a phase where we watched the whole series together and she loved it. Of course I have the whole thing on DVD.

What is Jem and the Holograms?

Not alot of people remember this cartoon TV series. It was on during the 80s and definitely targeted the young girl crowd, and I was hooked ever since. But just in case you don’t believe me that it’s a real show that actually happened, you can check out all the scoop on Wikipedia. 🙂

I was mostly addicted to the music, as Jem was a rockstar/popstar and had the catchiest songs and the most outrageous fashion.

She was also a real-life person with a real-life job and real-life responsibilities raising foster kids. Her real-life persona was Jerrica, and she had to keep her rockstar persona a secret from everyone.

Holy smokes. Kinda like me with this blog. I’m using the alias Pepper Valentine here (lol, my rockstar name), and I am keeping this blog a secret from everyone in my real-life so I can be uncensored and unedited here, and have no real-life consequences for being myself.

Anyhow, the reason she had to keep her identity such a secret was because she had a secret supercomputer (in the 80s!) that created all the music and all the fashion via holograms that looked real to everyone else. And she thought that if that supercomputer was discovered, that it could be used for evil purposes. She was using it simply to be a rockstar.

So that’s a quick summary as to why I am a “Jem and the Holograms” fan. I’m a bit obsessed with the series still, and I have fun creating projects that are inspired by Jem, like my daughter’s birthday party. We even dressed up as Jem and the Holograms for Halloween one year! I have those costume pics saved on another blog post you can link to here.

My Photos of Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party

I’m happy to be able to share these pics even though it’s all over and in the past. I hope you like it too…

The Birthday Cake… 🎂

Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.

The Goodie-Bags….

Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.

And all the goodies packed into the Goodie-Bags, including a pair of Jem’s Synergy earrings…

Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Birthday Party / Image Source: Pepper V.

Fun Ariana Grande Costume

So we experimented with Halloween outfits some more and tried an Ariana Grande costume this time. I think my daughter nailed it!

What do you guys think?

Compared to other costumes we’ve tried, this one was pretty simple to put together. Just needed the boots, the over-sized sweater, and the hair extensions for the ponytail. Easy-peasy!

So definitely when it comes to preparedness, this one is recommended because you might already have all the items you need in your closet.

Ariana Grande Costume
Ariana Grande Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Ariana Grande Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.

Britney Spears Kid Costume

Britney Spears Kid Costume

So have I told you all lately that I go a bit overboard for Halloween?! No? Ok then… Well, I do. And one of my faves was the Britney Spears kid costume that I put together for my daughter one year.

There was this one year, where my kid was a Britney Spears fan bc I was a Britney Spears fan and we used to enjoy all the same things. (Lol, those days are long past us now.) But my daughter had 3 different Halloween parties to attend, so of course, I just HAD to prepare 3 different Britney Spears costumes.

Of course we did the obligatory “Hit Me Baby One More Time” outfit.

Britney Spears Kid Costume “Hit Me Baby One More Time” / Image Source: Pepper V.
Britney Spears Kid Costume “Hit Me Baby One More Time” / Image Source: Pepper V.

And believe it not, we put together a kid costume for “I’m a Slave 4 U” too! My kid was obsessed with doing this particular outfit bc she wanted the snake prop. We called it “Snake Britney” at home bc that’s the best thing about it.

Britney Spears “Snake” Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Britney Spears “Snake” Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.

And finally, we did the “Toxic” outfit too.

Britney Spears Kid Costume “Toxic” / Image Source: Pepper V.
Britney Spears Kid Costume “Toxic” / Image Source: Pepper V.
Britney Spears Kid Costume “Toxic” / Image Source: Pepper V.

Anyhow, that’s the scoop on my daughter’s Britney Spears Halloween… Hope you all cracked a smile. I sure did. 🤣😁

Truly Outrageous Jem and The Holograms Costume

Jem and the Holograms Costume

Since Halloween is the theme of the month, I found pics from one of my favorite costumes ever. My daughter and I dressed in Jem and The Holograms Costumes one year.

What is “Jem and the Holograms”?

Not alot of folks are familiar with “Jem and The Holograms”. It was only the greatest 80’s cartoon series of all time, so you truly missed out if didn’t watch. Don’t fight me. 🙂

But just in case you don’t believe me that it’s a real show that actually happened, you can check out all the scoop on Wikipedia. 🙂

Image Source: Google

Not alot of people remember this cartoon TV series, which makes me sad. It was on during the 80s and definitely targeted the young girl crowd, and I was hooked ever since. I was mostly addicted to the music, as Jem was a rockstar/popstar and had the catchiest songs and the most outrageous fashion.

She was also a real-life person with a real-life job and real-life responsibilities raising foster kids. Her real-life persona was Jerrica, and she had to keep her rockstar persona a secret from everyone.

Holy smokes. Kinda like me with this blog. I’m using the alias Pepper Valentine here (lol, my rockstar name), and I am keeping this blog a secret from everyone in my real-life so I can be uncensored and unedited here, and have no real-life consequences for being myself.

Anyhow, the reason she had to keep her identity such a secret was because she had a secret supercomputer (in the 80s!) that created all the music and all the fashion via holograms that looked real to everyone else. And she thought that if that supercomputer was discovered, that it could be used for evil purposes. She was using it simply to be a rockstar.

So that’s a quick summary as to why I am a “Jem and the Holograms” fan. I’m a bit obsessed with the series still, and I have fun creating projects that are inspired by Jem, like these Halloween costumes for myself and my daughter. My daughter even had a Jem and the Holograms birthday party theme one year and I saved those pics on another post here. I’m happy to be able to share these pics even though it’s all over and in the past. I hope you like it too…

My Photos – Jem and the Holograms Costume

So one year myself and my daughter dressed as the main characters, Jem and Pizzazz, and we had a great time. Lol, how’d we do though? We look just like them, right?

Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.
Jem and the Holograms Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.

Fun with The Descendants Mal Costume

Halloween is definitely my favorite holiday of all time! My daughter loves it too and dressed in The Descendants Mal costume one year.

I enjoy the costumes, and getting to dress-up, and being able to PRETEND to be someone else for a few hours.

I’m a weirdo and I usually start planning and gathering everything I need for costumes in the summer. Mostly because I hate the annual Halloween pop-up stores – they’re too crowded, over-priced, nothing will fit correctly right off the shelf, and everything is handled and picked-through. Gross.

So I usually start prepping WAY in advance, but the prices are better and it gives me alot more time to make sure I’m happy with it and overall it’s a much less stressful experience for me.

Anyhow… I personally don’t dress up as much anymore since I’m usually focused on my daughter and her costume instead. She has an epic one planned for this year, and we’re all prepped and ready to go. I’ll keep it a secret until the big day but I can’t wait to share it with you all!

But in the meantime… I can post some pics of past costumes for you. I love Halloween!

Here’s a pic of my daughter dressed as Mal from Disney’s “The Descendants” movie.

The Descendants Mal Costume / Image Source: Pepper V.