5 Reasons Why Online Friends Are Better Than Real Life Friends

Last week I started lamenting how my real-life friends have let me down. And what happened in response is that my online friends came to the rescue. I am so appreciative that happened, bc it made me feel like I was no longer alone and that there were actually tons of kind and awesome people in the world. I just hadn’t quite clearly recognized it until then.

So I wanted to create a list detailing the reasons why online friends are better than real life friends. Here’s my list I’ve come up with:

1. Physical appearance doesn’t matter. You can interact with online friends in your jammies, in your comfy tees with stains on them, or nekkid even. And any personal hygiene issues won’t even matter. Nobody online will know if you stink. πŸ€—

2. Confidentiality. If you pay attention to protecting your privacy online (as I do), then you can vent about your most private issues and still have trust that your secret won’t be shared. In real life, there are so many human interactions that are out of your control. For example, in real life if I vent about a coworker at work, even to someone I believe is my friend, the risk is still inherently high that my secret will get out. This risk still exists online so you have to be careful, but more of that risk is within your control if you protect your identity.

3. Just-in-Time Interactions. Sometimes you just need a friend. NOW. But your real-life friends have jobs and families and their own lives and you’ll have to fit into their schedule somehow and it probably won’t be NOW. Or anytime soon. Online friends also have their own priorities, but there’s a much better chance that when you cast your net online, at least one of them can be available for kind words or a listening ear. It might not be the same person each time, but odds are in your favor that someone will be available and will rise to the occasion and be your friend at the moment that you need.

4. No fake friendships. In real life, sometimes you just HAVE to maintain relationships with people you don’t even like, or people that stress you out and give you anxiety, etc. For example, if I don’t like some of the moms from my daughter’s soccer team bc they gossip quite cruelly about others, well… I’m kinda out of luck bc they’re going to be in my life for YEARS. And the easiest way to deal with that is to fake friendships with them to maintain the illusion that everything is good. With online friends however, there is always the option to block them if they start becoming toxic or they engage in activities that make you uncomfortable.

5. Diversity. With real-life friends, there are usually many commonalities which bring them together in the first place – either growing up in the same neighborhood, going to the same school, working at the same office, going to the same church, or kids playing on the same soccer team, etc. With online friends on the other hand, no such common origin story exists to bring them together and you’ll end up creating friendships with people from all over the world with a variety of different mindsets, cultures, and experiences. And interacting with these globally diverse people can help us to grow and see ourselves and our situations much more critically.

So that’s my first-pass at creating this list. Definitely let me know your thoughts. Or if there’s anything I can add to improve it.

Love you all xoxo

18 Replies to “5 Reasons Why Online Friends Are Better Than Real Life Friends”

  1. You’re also more likely to find someone who relates with what you’re going through on here – out of the hundreds of people from across the globe reading your post. I totally agree with you – I’ve shared more on here than I have with my friends and family this past year. Mainly because most don’t understand my struggles with anxiety and this way I don’t expect them to either.

    1. That’s so true about being able to find someone online who can relate, especially when you’re going through something very specific. I’ve also shared more here than I have with my own family and friends so I completely get it. πŸ™‚

  2. Real life friends are very draining and less-than reliable. I thought that online friends were better until I realized that the interactions pretty much remain the same with online friendships. Do I really want to stay trapped behind a phone screen in order to talk to people? Sadly, most of my online friendships are restricted to texting, and often, these conversations lead nowhere. This is why I prefer blogging because I can have deeper, intellectual conversations with people that are more meaningful than a β€œhey,” β€œwhat’s up?” etc.

    1. So true about the text convos that go nowhere! Those usually start to annoy me very quickly and I end-up neglecting them. I much prefer the more meaningful and engaging exchanges that happen most often in blogs. πŸ™‚

  3. I would say the opposite of number 5 is also true. If you have very different values than most of the people in your area, and the people in your area tend to be stuck up and angry and opinionated and hate people like you, then it’s easier to find people online who share your values and beliefs.

  4. You definitely have a point here. I’m just starting out as a blogger and getting to know the online world. I have found that my real life friends have let me down when I need them but reaching out into the blogging world, there are so many people who can relate and help.. Hopefully as my journey continues I will find more and more lovely people to connect with ☺️

    1. Aw, welcome to the blogging world! I’m “kinda” new as well – I started last summer because I needed an escape from my lockdown life. I hope you do continue to find more people to connect with and I’m glad you’re here! πŸ™‚

      1. Thank you. I started mine to go with my business but have found it head in a more lifestyle direction and I am loving it☺️ I’m so happy that I took the leap

  5. The convenience of the internet πŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ™ŒπŸΎπŸ™ŒπŸΎ. But thank goodness for it. Imagine being in a pandemic without the Internet πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€πŸ‘€

  6. Agreed. I have a group of online friends that I’ve “known” for about 15 years. We initially met on a website that no longer exists. Before that happened, we created a private FB account, and we all keep in touch there. We’ve never met in person, but they are some of the best friends I have.

    1. That is awesome! Some of my best friends I met online over at MySpace lol. They’ve since been migrated over to Facebook. I’ve since visited a couple of them in real life and they were just as awesome in person! πŸ™‚

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