We’ve all been at the receiving end of some good ol’ fashioned mom-shaming, right?
To be fair, I also vent about other moms. But I would never say such things to their face or where they could overhear me. I really would never want to hurt anyone’s feelings just for doing things differently from me.
So today, I dropped off my daughter at a pool she was invited to. When I arrived, the moms were gathered there and we exchanged pleasantries.
They expected me to stay and day-drink with them but unfortunately I could not as I actually had to spend my Saturday afternoon running errands – specifically groceries for the whole week, and I also had prescriptions to fill before the pharmacy closed because I was OUT.
As I was leaving, I could overhear them snickering. Whatever.
Fast forward to a few hours later and I just picked-up my daughter and she told me that the other moms were talking about me after I left. I figured.
They were saying stuff like – they have to pick up my slack all the time because I never participate in all the things they participate in – like, all the school fundraisers where the moms are soliciting for money all the time, and all the classroom activities like games and parties and decorations, etc.
So, I know I don’t participate in all these voluntary activities. But I do contribute by writing multiple generous checks to support it all. So I’m not a complete deadbeat.
I do work all day during the week, so I can’t be available for optional events at the school during that time. And because I work all day during the week, then my weekends (like today) is when I catch-up on what’s needed for my home.
I just don’t have the same amount of free time that they do. It’s kinda mean that they would snicker at me for that. Lol, if anything they should be feeling sorry for me and asking how they can help.
But I also think it’s unfair that I’m EXPECTED to volunteer my time because I’m the mom. All these kids have another parent too (biologically, at least), but there’s no similar expectation for the dads to participate in all these optional activities. It’s definitely a “mom thing” for sure and I don’t think that’s fair to me at all.
Anyhow, so that’s my vent today about other moms. So I do it too! :/